I COULDN’T TAKE IT ANYMORE!

So I said what everyone was thinking…

I did something very impulsive and inconsiderate… but to be frank, not as inconsiderate as what someone else was doing. I won’t explain who this person was so let’s just call him “Ben”.

So, some brief background on the problem was that “Ben” was taking advantage and manipulating someone I love. Let’s call her “Alma”. So Ben was mistreating Alma and Alma always kept the peace by never bringing up how hurt she was because Ben is a member of the family and she would do anything for him. Well, what Ben has been doing has been happening every year (for like 30 years) without fail. Multiple multiple times. He was treating Alma like a bank basically and would only call her when he needed money from her. Alma has a huge heart and she doesn’t defend herself always so it’s hard for her to deal with confrontations and being assertive. SO…

ME. Being in a slightly hypomanic state, sent Ben a super super long message.

I would usually send Ben a message on his birthday or on holidays but we would never talk very much. But this time I said everything everyone was thinking. I said that I’m sick of the way he’s treating Alma and that he should be considerate of her feelings. I said he should not treat her like a bank and that he should think more because he was pissing me off with his behavior and decisions. I said it a little nicer than that but I was mad when I wrote the message.

Then, like a psycho and without thinking twice, I hit send.

Ben read it and wrote nothing back. But then I had to confess to Alma what I did in case Ben brought it up. So I told her… and she was shocked. She was unhappy because now Ben might be even more neglectful or mean. But Alma hugged me anyway as I cried because I told her I don’t want to see her getting hurt by anyone and it breaks my heart to know that Ben is such a jerk to her. Ben then called her like 3 or 4 times but Alma was so overwhelmed and afraid to hear what he had to say that she ignored those calls.

Alma understood why I did it and doesn’t hold any anger towards me. But I can tell she’s avoiding talking to Ben yet because of what happened. I hope that when she does talk to him, that she’ll remember how valuable she is and that she doesn’t deserve to be mistreated by anyone.

I know I could have been less impulsive but I also feel good for having told Ben how I really feel.

Alma, along many people in the world, deserve to remember they matter. If you or someone you know is being harmed, speak out. Say something. I, out of respect to Alma, would keep quiet. But I now realize that that’s not only unsafe to do for Alma, but also enabling the harm doer to continue hurting.

So if you see something, say something.

It might mean the world to somebody else.